Every age has its advantages. Some men like younger girls as they are more beautiful, fresher, and cuter. While others prefer older women as they are more serious, more experienced, and more family-oriented.
But an age gap can cause some misunderstandings and prevent you from building a close relationship. How to overcome this problem? From this article, you will get 13 tips on how to date an older woman.
Do Not Try to Seem Older Than You Are
It was not your maturity that attracted her, so there is no need to pretend that you are older than you really are. Behave naturally. If your woman has chosen you to be her boyfriend she likes your immaturity and inexperience. Do not be shy of these features and do not consider them as disadvantages. You lady, most likely, thinks that these are rather pluses than minuses if she has chosen you.
Do Not Act Like a Youngster
This advice may sound a bit contradicting to the previous one. But you should also stick to it if you do not want to lose a relationship with a mature lady. Do not go to the other extreme acting like a child. Women expect even very young boyfriends to be men, but not little helpless crumbs who want to be led by the hand through life.
Do Not Expect Her to Take Care of You
When a mature woman chooses a younger man for relationships she is not eager to become a “mommy” for him. On the contrary, such a role will only remind her of her age. Therefore, if you try to look for protection from your older life partner, there are high chances that she leaves you and better finds her age-mate who is not going to ask her for any help.
Do Not Ask Her to Help You Financially
Gigolos are not attractive to women who are looking for a complete and sincere relationship. If your woman understands that you are interested in her money, not herself, she will definitely not like it. So, do not spoil your communication by asking her to help you financially.
Do not Remind Her of Her Age
Constantly reminding her that she is older, wiser, and generally has much more experience is not a good idea. She will definitely not like it. Try not to focus on her age and communicate as equals.
Compliment Her Appearance More
Young girls are afraid that men like only their beautiful bodies and are not interested in their souls and intellect. While adult ladies, vice versa, no longer want to be loved only for their brains and life experience. This somehow does not flatter them very much anymore. But they gratefully appreciate the delight with their beautiful eyes, fit bodies, and sexy curves.
Take into Account her Age When Planning Joint Outings
Before inviting her to a disco, riding a bike, or a rock climbing trip, soberly assess her physical abilities. At forty, a woman may look extra fresh, but it does not guarantee that she will be able to hold out for four hours dancing in a smoky club or hiking for the whole day.
So, prefer more calm ways to spend time. Nobody says that you should just stay at home with a cup of tea and read newspapers together. You can go out and even spend time actively, but without excesses.
Do Not Insist on Introducing Her to Your Company
She will, most likely, be rather uncomfortable in the company of your age-mates and may even feel shy and confused about her age.
If you want to spend time in the company, then better choose her circle for this. With them, she will feel more comfortable and relaxed.
Do not be skeptical about this idea. You will probably also like her friends and learn a lot of new things from them.
Do Not Try to Control Her
We understand that you want to know where and how she spends her free time without you, whom she communicates with, and other details about her. But you cannot expect her to explain herself to you.
Attempts of control can work only with young inexperienced girls who have not set their personal boundaries strictly yet. But they do not work with mature ladies who already know what private space is.
This will just cause her negative reaction and spoil your relationships. Moreover, this will even look ridiculous when a younger boy tries to control a mature woman.
Do Not Shift Responsibility
Although she is older and more experienced, do not expect her to take the whole responsibility of everything in your relationships. Despite the fact that you are younger you should act like a real man to maintain a good relationship with your mature life partner. Take responsibility for men’s duties and do not expect your lady to be in charge of them.
Let Her Guide You In Bed
She already knows exactly what she wants. And under her guidance, you will achieve harmony much faster. And you will probably learn something that you like as well.
Be Ready for Serious Relationships
Older ladies know what they want. And if she has decided that she wants to start a family, she will not waste her time dating a guy who is not going to marry her. She is more experienced, so she will not believe any run-around or empty promises. So, better discuss what kind of a relationship you are interested in at once.
Respect Her Past
If she is about 40, most likely, she has a rich past: ex-boyfriends or even ex-husband, and sometimes children from previous marriages. If you cannot deal with this, better even do not start a relationship with an older woman.