Relationships between men and women are difficult. Sometimes it is not easy to understand each other and to predict the partner’s reactions. And everything becomes even more difficult with the age gap. How to date a younger girl? Here are 10 tips that will help you to understand each other and build a lasting and healthy relationship despite the age difference.
Take Her Seriously, not as a Light Casual Affair
Many men, when they begin to have an affair with young girls, behave rather inattentively. They can write once a week, appearing as suddenly as ghosts in horror films. This should not be the case if you want your relationship to be strong and reliable. Give the girl enough attention to make her feel truly needed and desired.
Do Not Be Obsessed with Sex
Of course, intimacy is an essential part of relationships. But you should not make it the most important thing.
For your union to be complete, you must not forget about the emotional connection and romance. Otherwise, a young girl will think that you are not interested in her personality, because she is too young for you.
Prove her that you are interested not only in her body but in her personality as well. Do not dwell on discussing sex-related issues. Keep a balance between intimacy and just spending time together doing something interesting, visiting beautiful places, having conversations about everyday life, and sharing your feelings and emotions with each other.
Behave According to Your Age
You do not have to try to act like a teenager just to be interesting to a young girl. This will not help. The fact is that if she is looking for an older partner, she understands the advantages of your age and appreciates them. If she has chosen you as a partner, she wants to communicate with a person of your age, not a teenager in the body of a mature man.
A lot of young girls say that they often have nothing to talk about with guys of their age. Most likely, this will not be a problem in your case. Show her that you have a rich life experience and share it with her. Tell her interesting stories and give her valuable advice. This is what young girls expect from communication with older men.
Leave her Some Freedom
If you choose a young girl as a partner for a relationship, be prepared for the fact that she has a life of her own with plenty of young friends, parties, career ambitions, and a hundred other reasons to live for. Do not limit her in her own life and do not insist on spending all her free time together with you.
If she sometimes prefers partying with friends to dining out with you, it does not mean that she has no feelings for you. Just socializing with age-mates is very important for all young people.
Remember yourself at her age: would you give up studying, parties, and hobbies for the sake of a relationship when you were twenty? Most likely, not. So, you cannot expect this from your young girlfriend.
Do Not Be Too Jealous
We understand that this may be difficult. It is hard not to worry when she is partying in the company of young friends without you. What if she meets a young guy and leaves you for him? Such thoughts may be often in your head, but try not to show them. Do not make jealous scenes if there are no real significant reasons for this. Otherwise, you will just show your girlfriend that you lack confidence. And it definitely will not make you more attractive to her, only vice versa.
So, try to get rid of negative thoughts and fears that your young lady can leave you for an age-mate. After all, she has chosen you knowing about your age. This means that she prefers older men to age-mates and finds them more attractive and suitable for serious relationships.
As we have already mentioned above, the time of immaturity and infantility is far behind. So try to be honest with your girlfriend and with yourself.
If you do not like something in a relationship, tell it honestly. Just be delicate and do not use harsh language. Do not be silent about how you feel and what you think about this or that situation.
Keep Up to Date
Knowledge of the latest trends and modern technologies significantly increases the chances to find a common language with a young girl. But do not overdo it. Using teen slang or trying to follow a teenage fashion is too much.
Adapt to Her Pace of Life
At your age, you may prefer to spend Friday night at home in a cozy atmosphere with a glass of wine and an interesting movie. However, your girlfriend may have completely different desires.
She probably wants to dine out or to go hang out in the club. In this case, try to find a compromise. Either spend time actively together with her (of course, if something she offers is not too active and unreal for you). Or let her go party with friends and do not get offended if she does not want to stay at home together with you every evening.
Do not Be Overprotective
Do not forget that a woman wants to see you as a boyfriend, not her second father. Of course, you need to take care of her. But do not be too caring. This may irritate her.
Be Calm and Act Naturally When it’s time to meet her parents
Naturally, many parents may be skeptical about their daughter dating someone of their age or just a bit younger. After all, in their opinion, she is so inexperienced, and you, a mature man, are ready to break her heart at any time.
But when it comes to meeting them, communicate with them naturally, without extra worrying. Try to find a common language with them and show them that you are serious about their daughter.